Learning to take little steps is a huge step towards recovery from social anxiety disorder. Yep, it's true! Weird as that may sound. It is logical though, although it may seem as though you are simply enabling the anxiety for a long time. But think about it, if you constantly put yourself in the most anxiety provoking situation you can, and then panic, you are only building up a great evidence base that that situation Will ALWAYS make you panic. It took me ages to learn this, and I used to always beat myself up because I hadn't managed a situation as well as I 'should' have.
I hated the fact that I couldn't eat out. Couldn't go to parties. Couldn't sing in public. Because as far as I was concerned, I SHOULD be doing all those things, without ANY anxiety whatsoever!
This is simply not the case.
It works like this.
The more you force yourself into situations which you aren't ready to manage, the more evidence you have that you CAN'T manage them.
The littler steps you take, the less likely you are to panic.
The more little steps you succeed in taking without panicking, the bigger backlog of evidence you have to prove that you CAN manage your anxiety.
Once you have this evidence that you can manage your anxiety in little steps, then you can slowly move on to a bigger little step.
Keep doing this, until you finally reach a point where you are happy.
Sure, this can take years! But the moral of this blog is - Slow and Steady Wins the Race!
Don't let anyone push you into a situation you aren't ready to deal with!
Follow more of my own journey with little steps (which are becoming bigger) at www.jessicaclairemusic.com or @jessicaclaire85