The title in itself is shocking isn't it? In many ways I make no apology for that as I read time and time again people being prescribed anti-depressants and a concoction of other drugs. I can still remember the day myself, It was a sunny day with a cool breeze in the air. I was at university but instead of being in lectures I was nervously sitting in the universities doctor's waiting area. My mind was still in a state of confusion and no one up to this point had really sought to understand what it was like to live with the daily drudery of severe depression, social anxiety, panic attacks and perhaps the worst of all feelins of suicide. It was to date the lowest point I had ever reached in my life. I felt I was more of an inconveience rather than a victim. In some ways I shouldn't blame them, as how are they supposed to know what it's like. How do they know what it's like to live this nightmare that never seems to end. Every year it is the same old thing; Everyone else seems to get on and move forwards but I'm stuck here. I was so sick of it.
A few minutes later the doctor calls me in. He sits me down and I have to recite the all to familar story back to him. It was like he couldn't really care about it. Instead he said to me 'Take these anti-depressants and they will help you'. I reember going back home later that weekend and checked in with my parents and a few other close family. They told me not to take them, they could be harmful. So it was at that moment, that my life was probably saved again and I didn't even know it.
Fast forward 10 years later It's like the 2 events couldn't be further apart. It is like that ME never even existed and although traumatic at the time i set the wheels in motion for the work i do now. Having worked with numerous clients many of them have taken anti-depressants. I can't recall a single person who didn't have serious side affacts from the drugs. Like any drug there are serious health consequences with regards the gut lining being affected which can lead to bleeding and the fact that many of these drugs make you even more anxious as well. Not to mention the consequences of coming of the drugs. For more details I've linked to some excellent articles that will explore the science etc behind this post and I seriously encourage you to read these articles carefully and then think about how you can wean yourself of these drugs.
The truth be told that is that you can be anxiety and panic free without the need for drugs that can kill you. Did you ever stop to think what panic is? Did you ever ask yourself why you feel the way you do and what can be done to resolve your issue? Sure you probably did. But the problem is you got the wrong information. So here are some pointers to set the record straight once and for all:
1) Rule 1: Feelings and emotions are the fuel that drive the response. Let's explore this in detail. You wake up and "you feel panicky" you experience "panic overwhelming sensations". That right there is your feeling and emotion. Next the feelings and emotions increase in intensity and you get a panic attack. That is the response. You are responding to these intense feelings and because you are resisting and fighting them like crazy and trying to figure out what to do you go straight into a panic. Your body shakes, you get mentally confused and then you've lost all sense of rationality.
So how do you escape this without taking drugs????
2) Rule 2: You must have a positive intention everyday. You need to have a goal and a positive focus. It's no coincidence that those who are super successful have a strict morning and evening regime. Ideally you will focus on you goal in the morning paying attention to how it feels to have this goal, what it looks like, what your new positive beliefs are. Then you need to write down those negative beliefs. Get those written down on a sheet of paper and one by one start changing turning those negative beliefs into postive one's: e.g. 'I can't do it' 'I can do it' 'I'm so sick of these overwhelming panic feelings' 'I can be in control of my life now'
3) Rule 3: What you hold in mind is what you get. If you continually moan, complain and talk about how bad your life is right now ( I know I used to do it myself) then guess what you're going to attract that. The irony is, and I wish someone told me this years ago is that to be anxiety free requires nothing more than a simple, strong decision.
4) Rule 4: When going through a panic attack: ACCEPT it. RELAX into it. DEEP BREATHE. Breathing deeply in through your nose and out again helps to calm your body down. People just think that it takes a few minutes or 15-20 minutes to overcome a panic attack but that simply is not always the case. The more you apply this rule that more you'll disover you are more powerful than you think.
5) Rule 5: Invest in yourself. I find it absolutely staggering how people can buy new furniture, go on a weekend break, waste money buying anti-depressant drugs and lord knows what else but when it comes to paying for help people just think they are entitled to that for free. When I was suffering from my issues many many years ago I was on minimum wage, very basic salary and yet I still managed to pay $2,000 plus £640.00 for a flight to the USA to attend a seminar to help sort my life out. And boy am I glad I did as that seminar changed my whole life. So when you say "I can't afford it because money is tight right now" That is just a lie you sell yourself on. The fact is it has nothing to do with the price, it has everything to do with you. It means you want to keep your anxiety, it means you want to stay screwed up and it means you want to continue to blame everyone and the world about how bad your life is when really YOU are the problem. If you are in this mindset you need to ask yourself this question: What is it worth to me to be anxiety/panic free right now? If your answer is 'I don't know' 'Not sure' or anything like that then that just tells me you want to keep you anxiety and panic. There's no hope for you unless you change and invest in yourself. That's the cold hard truth of it.
So some of those rules you'll like but I suspect Rule 5 will get you all a bit defensive, and I make no apology for that. If you are not worth investing in then why should other's around you invest in YOU. Becauase people around you unless they have experienced anxiety don't understand you? They don't really get you and they by and large think you're making a huge deal out of nothing. It hurts to hear thr truth, I know it does. My job is to transform and help as many anxiety sufferers as I can. I wake up everyday thinking of new and better ways to make a difference, because I do understand you. I had it really really bad, worse than some of you reading this post. So take it from someone that has walked the fires of hell and come out the other side. You are worth gambling on. You are worth investing in. You are unique, special and talented. You were put on this Earth to fulfill a purpose, to make a difference. Talk to your GP and wean yourself of these drugs and read the articles below and turn your life around.
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Article 2: This article I like because it basically tells you how screwed up these drugs are but "assures" you that you'll be fine. It's a bit like saying go to the zoo, open the cage to the lions and hang out with them because they've never attacked anyone before, hmm sounds crazy to me... http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Antidepressant-drugs/Pages/Side-effects.aspx
Article 3: Very informative article on Prozac and similar prescription drugs: https://www.drugwatch.com/prozac/
Artilce 4: Perhaps the best article and the one I enjoyed reading the most. READ THIS if you are currently on any anti-depressant medication or SSRI: https://www.madinamerica.com/2012/09/things-your-doctor-should-tell-you-about-antidepressants/
Membership Site: For your free 30 day trial check out this link. I'd love your ideas and input and to help you on your journey:) http://getanxietyandpanicfree.valueaddon.com/
Before we get going any further let’s look at what the definition is of a panic attack:
A quick type in Google and we can find the following definition “A sudden overwhelming feeling of acute and disabling anxiety” (Google Search, 2016)
For many of you, that suffer from panic attacks I’m sure you can relate to the above definition. I know the above definition was true for me many years ago when I seemed to suffer from constant panic attacks. Panic attacks make you feel exhausted, tired, Apathetic in nature and one almost feels like surrendering to the inevitable daily trudge off the day. We surrender our control to the world and let the world do what it wants with us. We feel abandoned by society because society doesn’t understand our issue and in many cases can’t help us with our issues. Sadly you can waste thousands on so-called alternative treatments and read hundreds of books without seeming to make any noticeable movement forward.
I know this because this is how my own journey started. I grew ever frustrated by the lack of knowledge and results from so-called CBT, Counselling, Psychotherapy and trying this technique and that technique. However, I’m determined that no one else should have to go through the same experience and feel like they’re stuck in a thick sticky quagmire. Today I’d like to share with you 3 ways in which you can make a start in tackling your own panic attacks and gradually regain control of your life.
Before I launch into the 3 tips I want to cover some old ground to set the foundation right for you. The first thing we must understand is who exactly these feelings on panic belong to. So ask yourself now “Who do these feelings of panic belong to?” Do you see that these feelings of panic belong to you? It’s your panic and your feelings. Recognising this represents a big first step in overcoming the anxiety. You see if you don’t know these feelings of panic belong to you, then you’ll always blame external events for you having panic. You’ll look everywhere bar yourself.
So now step 1 is in place knowing who these feelings belong to we then need to delve deeper and look at what essentially panic is. Now panic as far as you and I are concerned is simply noise, it’s mind noise. That’s it. So now we know the panic belongs to us and it is just our mind making noise. We might not like it or agree with it but already we can see a little clearer. So now we’re ready for the 3 tips.
1)Daily Intention: Having a daily intention of what you are going to do during the day seems almost irrelevant. How does this help with my panic?? Well by having a clear idea as to what you are going to do during the day your mind is going to focus on that very thing. That’s important as we all know our minds love to wonder and play all those Hollywood blockbuster movies of destruction and chaos. A focused mind becomes clearer and more tamed. A mind left to wonder leads to complete anarchy and you and I both know all about that don’t we? So what do you want to do today? You can mope around and blame the world for how bad you feel and drive everyone mad or you can take control and live your life to the full. What would you like to do? Great so can you think of just 3 things you’d like to do today. Make them positive, exciting, uplifting. You might decide to go for a relaxing walk on the beach, read an engaging book, spend 20 minutes focusing on your goal and imagine achieving it. So what is it for you?
2)The Secret Of Mind Quiet: How would you like to save yourself thousands and let me show you the fastest way to getting free from panic, achieve greater well-being, get your goals and much more? Sound a plan… Well, what I’m about to share is something I only recently discovered and since then it has found it’s way into every session I conduct. Why? Because it works real quick. You see what they don’t tell you in the secret and in that plethora of self-help books is what the mind is and what quiet is. Now you are very familiar with your mind because you hang out with it every second of the day. However even amongst all the chaos in your life right now there have been fleeting glimpses of your true state, your natural state. It might surprise you to know that anxiety and the emotional state is un-natural. We weren’t born with emotions instead in our early formative years we made connections based upon certain emotional experiences. For example, we might start off with hating the sound of a bus air breaks because it scares us or makes us jump. Over time this ‘scared’ feeling get’s stronger as we begin to make deeper stronger connections with the bus and airbrakes. Then we take it further and paint every ‘loud’ noise with the same emotion and before you know it you have created a phobia response or severe fear.
So what is our natural state? Well, that state is quietness of mind. It’s best described as the state where everything just works out fine. Our mind is quiet, we accept ourselves 100% and things just effortlessly work out for us. In a world of panic attacks, we may only achieve this state for very brief periods during the day. So the next question I get asked is: “What, you mean to tell me your big idea is to get a quiet mind and I’m never going to get a panic attack, anxiety or experience any negative emotion?” And my answer “ Yes, so long as you STAY in quiet you’ll never have any issue”
Your mind might be kicking in now and thinking “There’s got to be more to it. I’ve got to figure this out. He doesn’t get my panic attacks. You can’t just get quiet and be free of it. It can’t be right…” Well, there’s a reason why I run London’s Leading Anxiety Clinic and that’s precisely because I know exactly what I’m talking about. I invite you as part of your daily morning routine to try out this little routine:
Step 1: As you wake up in the morning just sit up in your bed with eyes closed. Just focus on taking a deep relaxing breath in through your nose and out either through your nose or mouth, whichever is more comfortable for you.
Step 2: Think about achieving your goal. Focus on what you want and not the picture you don’t want. How does it feel to have it? Just notice all the sensations of having it.
Step 3: Now think about those positive beliefs you have now you have it. E.g. “I feel so relaxed and peaceful now” “I feel surrounded by the feeling of safety and security” “I am safe now” “I love myself now” You get the idea. These affirmations are another new thing I’ve discovered that work really well used in the right way.
Step 4: Begin to surrender all those feelings now to quiet and just go back to focus on your breathing. As soon as you feel centred and your head feels relaxed your good for the day. Every time you feel overwhelmed during the day just think back to the positive goal and you’ll lift yourself up. The more you stay positive the more your life will change for the better.
3) Momentum: The Key To Success
Momentum sounds like something associated with a boulder charging down a mountain and gaining ever increasing strength and power. In short, this analogy is perfect for why momentum is so important. Like a boulder charging down a mountain, it takes a bit of time for the boulder to reach its full speed and power. Like the boulder the more we practice and develop healthy habits of success the more power and strength we accumulate and the better and more abundant our lives are. In the beginning stages, it takes effort and a real push to get the boulder of success to topple on down the hill but once we achieve this we can ease off the pressure and just continue to repeat what worked for us the day before and in so doing grow and achieve ever greater levels of potential. So think about what action you can take today to take a step closer to achieving your goal. Is it sending an email or a proposal off because you fear failure and rejection? Do something or forever be trapped within the paralysis of nothing. No action=No Results. Action=Feedback=Results.
I hope these few tips have helped you and do please share this article and comment below. If you feel you'd like further support from me then why not get your free 30 minutes "Prove It Works: Get Anxiety Free" Session where I'll give you a taste of the magical state of quiet. I only have 3 spaces a week so get in touch with me now if you want in. I have successfully worked with people all over the world including the USA as we use zoom, a great way to chat using your computers video.
It all started out like any other day. The sun was hot and the day began to get into full swing. Since it was a nice day I thought it would be nice to go for a walk with my folks along Brighton sea-front here in the UK. The walk started of peacefully and we made good progress, as the cool wind blew in our faces keeping us cool and refreshed. When we got to the pier, we decided we would push along and walk another 2 miles to the marina and stop and have a much needed rest and lunch. As I walked passed the pier, I saw the road running alongside the pier was closed. I thought great I can have a nice quiet walk along here, without those insane motorbikers breaking the calmness. As I kept walking I saw my worst nightmare, lots of old loud sports cars. It was some kind of sports car get together. Definitely not my thing. I decided to relax, and you can imagine my walking pace quickened quite considerably. I wasn't hanging around, sorry mum and dad, but when you have had a life long phobia of loud noise, you don't hang around admiring the view. I was just focused on getting as much distance between me and these crazy sports car drivers. Luckily they were all to consumed with admiring each others vehicles, and not starting them up. I knew I had to be quick through here, and put some ground in before one of them started to show of their engines, and rev those noisy cars.
Through out the whole process I thought 'Wow, this is a great test for me'. I'm a hypnotherapist and I should be able to handle myself and my fear. I decided to focus on my breathing, and just continued to breathe deeply, and walk fast through what was my worst nightmare. I surprised myself, in that although anxious, I was still in control, and much more relaxed than what I'd imagined. I actually wasn't bothered at that time, what was going on. I found by focusing on my breathing I could relax myself enough to think clearly, and act accordingly. Well you'll be glad to know I finally made it to the marina, and yes, lunch was good.
On the return, I noticed that to my horror, the sports cars were still there. This time they were all beginning to leave, and that meant some of them were revving their engines making alot of noise. As i approached, my anxiety increased even more, and whilst walking a car made backfiring sounds from his exhaust. Well that was all i needed to get the hell out of there. I subtly as I could put my fingers in my ears and walked faster than a freight train. It was quick, almost like Hussain Bolt type quick:) Although a few people gave me funny looks, I really didn't care about that. The sounds of cars making a huge amount of loud noise is not my idea of a relaxing and quiet day out. I managed to again focus on my breathing, and again I noticed how much more relaxed I felt. I felt calm and in control, whereas before I would've panicked and run through people just to get away.
So what did I learn from this event??
I learnt that it is okay to have and even admit to having a phobia of something. What is key is learning how to relax in the moment, and how it is possible with practice to take appropriate action just by focusing on your breathing and just saying to yourself 'everything is ok'. I find it amazing that something as simple as breathing deeply made such a profound affect on me and helped me better manage the situation. Hope you enjoyed my experience, and catch you soon:)
For those that aren't to familar with my background I thought I would take the chance to share with you a little story about myself. I do this in the hope that it will empower you and show you that no matter how bad your anxiety or fear is, there is a way out. In my early years both at school and through to university I was badly bullied. At the time it was a very unpleasant experience, and no doubt played a very big role in my social anxiety. I used to dread that people were always making fun of me, or was anxious about what their opinions were of me. Over time this anxiety grew stronger, and lead to me being depressed and frustrated with life. I did the good old counsellor thing and saw people who were supposed to offer help and suport. I often found that I left those sessions more distraught than when I entered. I desperately sought answers as to why I was always feeling depressed and anxious. For many years I couldn't find any answers. I remember that everytime I walked outside and particularly if I saw other teenager groups walking along, I felt scared that I somehow would be attacked or worse. Of course I now know that these thoughts were just my mind going out of control, and these beliefs were totally unfounded.
At 20 years old I decided that none of the counsellors really understood me or could help me. I was often brushed aside, and made to feel that I was the problem. It still to this day never ceases to amaze me how many therapists don't treat their clients with respect or understand what they are going through. I found most of my therapists did pretty much nothing. So I decided I would find out and take charge of my life myself. So after many years of searching and reading all sorts of books on how the mind worked, learning about NLP, Hypnotherapy, I-Ging and many other eastern style teachings I found I was still not really getting where I wanted to be. I desperately wanted to know what my purpose on earth was. Why was I feeling anxious and how could I overcome it??
Well one day the answer came. I was on Micheal Neil's site supercoach and looking through one of his programmes in the link section of his site. I came across this technique called the release technique, orriginally taught by a guy called Lester Levenson. After getting Micheal's advice I bought the book and read it. Suddenly everything fell into place. Several months later of really applying myself I found I finally overcame my anxiety and fears to such a point that I finally felt I was in charge of my life instead of my life being in charge of me. I never slumped into depression again, and over the coming years decided to rigoursly test out the prinicples in the book. It really worked.
However, I wanted to cut your learning time, and give you a link to a video and let Lester do the talking. If you really listen to this video with your heart and soul, this video will change your life forever and you will discover new things about yourself. Now don't get me wrong, information is useless without taking action and applying yourself, It will take a concerted effort, but if you take control then you too can be anxiety free, and finally enjoy a life of peace and finally be the master of your life. The question is, Are you ready to change? Will you apply yourself and do whatever it takes to get your goal? I really recommend just watching and listening to Lester and let your own intuition guide you. You are your own best teacher and guide. Thank you and enjoy the video, it's just under 10mins. I've watched this video a few times myself and everytime I watch it I learn something knew about myself.
During my research on this post and countless hours looking through forum posts, something really stood out for me about what people thought worked really well for Emetophobia, and that was Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. The only downside was CBT is very expensive and people were crying out for information on how they could use this technique to better help them.
The good news is you don’t have to pay anything because I’m going to give you a snapshot of CBT as it relates to hypnosis, yippee!!!
So let’s get the background out the way. CBT works on both parts of the belief, a bit like we did last session, but with a big difference. We basically encourage ourselves to bring up those negative beliefs and play them in our head, and just erase them from there, using a secret technique that CBT doesn’t use. Then I’m going to take you though the positive belief, and really get you fired up and ready to being free from your Emetophobia. Sound good??
Step 1: The first thing we need to do, is get a sheet of paper. On the sheet of paper what I want you to do is write down your negative beliefs about Emetophobia. Get it all out here, and just allow yourself to flow along. We’re not into going deep into the whole reason why you have it, how it happened etc. Just relax, take a deep breath, and enjoy this exciting process..
Step 2: Now when you have really got all those negative beliefs out and written down on your sheet of paper, write the opposite of all those beliefs. The super clever thing about this, is we are actually re-wiring your mind to accept a better quality belief. Just go through each negative belief you have and then, write the positive version of that belief e.g. ‘I’m always freaking out when people are sick’ the positive version would be something like ‘I am okay if people are sick and I feel calm in how I deal with the situation’ The key thing is make the positive belief strong, and make sure you pause and feel as if this was really happening. You should feel lighter and relaxed.
Step 3: Notice if any energy got stirred up in this process. On a scale of 1-10, 1 being the least agitated and 10 being the most agitated where abouts are you? Wherever you are, just notice this energy just leaving, imagine a door opening and just imagine seeing this energy just leaving. As it leaves just say yes to it. Everytime you say yes, it gives permission for that energy to leave. Just notice how much lighter you feel after doing that.
Step 4: Focus on the positive belief you have about being free from Emetophobia. Really see it and feel as if you were completely free from Emetophobia, what would you do? How would you feel? What would you think to yourself? How would you view your old outdated issue of Emetophobia? Just keep repeating those positive beliefs to yourself, and just imagine being a 100% free from your Emetophobia. See it as really happening right now in this moment. Lester Levenson, a great american master once said ‘Never see things coming in the future, see it and taste it as yours now’ On a scale of 1-10, 1 not being free from Emetophobia and 10 being completely free, where are you? Wherever you are, just relax, take a deep breath in and allow any feelings to just be there and leave. Keep repeating this process until you feel the difference. You should feel calm, quiet, and have a sense of enjoying that new freedom. We’re not after you being pumped up and ready to take on the world. If you feel like that, just allow those feelings to pass and say yes to that experience. Continue until you feel light and calm.
Step 5: Now just bring up the negative picture. This is simply a case of playing those negative beliefs in your head, and as you do that I want you to imagine just saying yes to this whole experience, and letting go of any thoughts you have. Just make that decision to just let go. You don’t need to get involved in the whole story and drama, that doesn’t help you at all. Just see these thoughts and beliefs as old broken records playing. Allow the pictures to just be there, allow the sounds to be there, all the while just saying yes to this experience. That’s right!! Now on a scale of 1-10, 1 not being free from Emetophobia and 10 being free from Emetophobia whereabouts are you. Wherever you are continue to just relax, breathe deeply, and allow any thoughts or feelings to just pass through, just say yes, open up an imaginary door and let that energy leave. Make that decision to just feel okay with what is going on.
Step 6: Now just imagine a blank screen passing over the picture and just focus on the positive part of the belief. Repeat those positive beliefs you have about being Free from this issue, See what you do, where you go, how you view your old issue. Really take the time to let yourself enjoy this process. Remember you are always in control, just decide to enjoy feeling free right now. Sit how you would sit, talk like you would talk. Act the part. You may notice yourself feeling lighter and more confident than before. Just continue to take your time here and really enjoy this process.
Step 7: Before leaving this process, count from 1-5. On 5 you emerge relaxed and confident, and allow all those positve changes to take place at a speed and rate that is right for you. You can allow the belief that you are free from your fear, to sink deep into your neurology, and from this day forth enjoy how it feels to be healthy, relaxed about your health, and how easy it is to just let your unconscious mind take care of everything for you.
Well, that was certainly a long post, phew!! I really try very hard to give you the best value I can, and to not hold anything back. Relax through this process, and enjoy it. Therapy is fun. Thank you for reading, and if you want me to record this as an mp3 track then let me know. Take care for now, and stay tuned for our final post on Emetophobia next week.
Welcome to part 2 of this unique blog series about tackling Emetophobia. One of the things that seems to be quite common with people suffering anxieties is they seem to have alot of mental turmoil about what is going on. It can seem you just don’t know what to do, do I do this, do I do that. So I guess it’s not surprising you can find yourself getting overwhelmed by it all. Being overwhelmed seems to stem from the fact that parts of you are pulling you in different directions. It’s like being on a crossroads, and part of you says turn left, and the other part says turn right.
So let’s look at something we can do to reduce this mental agitation we experience.
Before we do this process let’s just explain a little bit about how this works. The process is called Parts Therapy, and as the name suggests, it looks at the part of you that is holding onto your fear of being sick, and the other part of you that wants to be free from your fear of being sick. The part of you that holds onto your fear of being sick is known as the ‘Original Part’, and this part has a positive reason why it is holding onto the fear. The part of you that wants to be free from your fear of being sick is called the ‘Positive Part’. Great now we have set the basics down, let’s get stuck in...
Step 1: Take a few deep breaths and just get yourself into a relaxed state of hypnosis. Quickest way to do that is focus on taking some really strong deep breaths in and out. This is yoga style breathing, and by breathing deeply in expanding your whole chest, and then exhaling bringing your stomach inwards is a very good style of breathing to get used to.
Step 2: Think about the problem you have, in this case your fear of being sick. Notice how there is some agitation around the issue, part of you wants to hold onto this thought or issue, and the other part wants to be free from this issue. Just acknowledge that now..
Step 3: Silently ask the ‘Original Part’ of your belief ‘What are you trying to do to help me?’ Just keep asking that question and notice if an answer gets stirred up. Don’t force it, or agitate yourself here, we are just exploring what this belief is doing to help us. Ask the belief ‘What are you trying to do to help me??’ Just notice any response you get. That’s it..
Step 4: When you think you have some kind of answer, ask the ‘Positive Part’ that part of the belief that wants to move forwards, 3 things it could do to help solve the concern that the ‘Original Part’ came up with. Again, don’t get agitated by it, just have some fun and enjoy this journey of exploration.
Step 5: Check that the ‘Original Part’ is okay with the three things and that there is agreement there.
Step 6: When you are satisfied that the ‘Original Part’ is happy with the 3 new ways to solve the problem, then ask the ‘Original Part’ this question: ‘If you take on board these three new ways to solve this issue, will you leave me alone?’ See what comes up and just keep asking the same question until the ‘Original Part’ (That part that is holding onto the fear of being sick) is happy to leave you alone and let you move forward.
Thank you for reading and I wish you a wonderful day wherever you are in the world.
Hey guys welcome to this special 4 part all about Emetophobia, the Fear of Being Sick. Now I should say from the outset that this condition affects people in many different ways, and this post can’t tackle this issue in the detail it really needs, that is far better done face to face with someone like myself who is a professional therapist. However through these 4 specific posts I thought I would give it my best shot and so feel free to post below and let me know your thoughts:)
Emetophobia causes the sufferer to feel paranoid about being sick in public, or even seeing someone be sick. This leads to sufferers taking excessive action and avoiding certain places, or not eating certain foods for fear that it might cause them to be sick. It also can cause various levels of anxiety depending on how bad the situation is. Some people might be fearful of getting ill, and the two conditions are very much interlinked in some ways. The fear of being ill and contracting some kind of illness can also cause that particular individual to take excessive action. Everytime winter comes they fear that they are going to get ill, or they have to continually check that they are okay and get re-assurance from those close to them or from Doctors.
Dr Larina Kase mentions that Emetophobia is the 6th biggest fear around. The fact remains there are many sufferers out there who find the concept of being sick or seeing someone be sick a terrifying experience. Often it seems that traditional methods of therapy don’t always benefit the client or yield the results they expected. So is there something we can do to help reduce this seemingly irrational fear?? Well, I passionately believe there is. I am a big fan of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and I firmly believe that for a fear to exist there must have been a series of events that occurred for it to be there in the first place. This fear of being sick in my opinion is a learned experience. You have learnt to react in this way, and to make things worse you have some kind of story or reasons why you have these feelings and thoughts.
Now this is encouraging in my opinion, if you learnt to react in some way, then surely you can unlearn can’t you?? It stands to reason doesn’t it?? So lets look at this first exercise you can do..
1) Take a sheet of paper and write down all the thoughts you have about being sick. Write down all your fears, all the reasons how it occurs when it occurs and just keep writing those beliefs you have. It might be you have to check that your okay the whole time, it might be that a certain place or situation terrifies you in that you believe it will make you feel sick. Just write it all out. When you do this process you are actually offloading all the mental agitation that is stored in your mind.
2) Now write the opposite positive belief next to that negative belief you have. For example lets say you wrote down: ‘If I’m sick people will think I’m disgusting’ so just write the opposite more positive belief such as ‘If I’m sick people will ask if I’m okay, and help me get better’. Just put a positive spin on it, and feel how it would feel if that new belief were real. This is a super clever way to re-wire your mind into accepting a better quality belief and thought process.
3) When you have done that, ask yourself this question: ‘What is the worst thing that can happen to me if I’m sick in public, or if I see someone being sick’. Whatever gets stirred up just write that down on a sheet of paper. After you have written this all down, just see if it really is that big of an issue. In the scheme of things, is this a life threatening condition you have. Chances are it probably isn’t, and if you're not sure, have you been to the doctors and consulted a professional on their thoughts about the condition you have. What did they say?? If they told you, you are okay and that you are physically fit, then there is nothing to worry about, right. I know alot of Emetophobia sufferers need that re-assurance from the doctor, but then they also don’t believe the doctor when they say everything is okay. Don’t worry about that yet, we’ll tackle that in part 2 of this series..
4) Now we have explored the negative part, let’s hop along to the positive part. That part of you that could be free from this belief. I’m willing to guess, that there has been a time in your life when you have been fit and well. Even people who are ill the whole time, have days when they are well don’t they?? So imagine, just for this moment if you were totally free from this condition. Think about and write down all the things you would do under the following headings.
*What would you feel like?
*What would you do?
*What new beliefs and thoughts would you have?
*What would you think about the condition you had? So on this question you're looking from a healthy mindset, and almost getting the notion that it was not really a big a deal as what you thought at the time. There have been times in your life when you have overcome big and seemingly impossible problems, and at the time it was big and scary, yet when you broke through those thoughts and feelings, it just didn’t seem to matter so much anymore. Pretty clever stuff hey!!
5) Now what I want you to do is get an intension for every day. intentions are like mini goals that we have. When we train our mind to think and act differently we are more likely to make change in our lives. However there is a catch to this. Our minds are protective mechanisms that want to protect us, and it will resist any change we do, so we must make a strong and determined decision to move forwards. I encourage you to really make that committment with yourself, don’t stop, don’t be intimidated by your thoughts. These are just beliefs you have stored in your mind, mistakenly believing that they are protecting you and serving you well, when in fact they are not. These thoughts haven’t harmed you in any way so far, so why would they harm you now, they can’t and they wont!!
7) An intension should be worded in a positive way. Something at first that is simple and easy to achieve. For example why not have an intension that every day you are going to feel happy in spite of what is happening. Now remember, you must be okay with that negative picture. Just ask yourself, ‘Could I be okay with me having this fear of being sick’ Why not. Who said you couldn’t be okay with it, and that is as easy as just watching those old beliefs play in your mind, and just watching those concerns just float away. This is a really fast way to get okay with your fear. Could I just be okay with what I feel and how I feel?? Could I be okay with all this fear I have?? Why not, life is a decision, what do you decide to do?? Whose thoughts are they?? Who do these beliefs belong too? They belong to you, don’t they..
In part 2 I’m going to show you a bran new process that I’ve not talked about before, and is something I use with my exclusive private clientele, want to know more, then tune in for the next blog post..
For useful resources to help you out see below, always make sure you do your own research and consult with a doctor before beginning any new form of treatment and especially if you have any doubts. Let me know what your thoughts are??
Oh and here's a cool video for you as well. I like this person's explanation of treating Emetophobia.
For my blog post and video on intentions click below on the word intentions:
This book below has been getting some very favourable reviews on Amazon UK, so it's worth checking out. I haven't read it myself, so if you do get it let us know your thoughts on it.
Hope you are all doing well:) Welcome to this latest blog post. This post is really inspired by 2 different reasons, 1 is that ASN is going to have a therapy programme which is very exciting indeed, and the other was inspired by a recent client session I did. In this post i'm going to share with you my personal opinion of how you can use hypnotherapy to help you, and what this strange thing called hypnosis really is all about.
A Little History:
Hypnosis goes back to the days of biblical times according to general consensus. My favourite story about hypnosis was in Greece.The greek god for sleep was called Hypnos, and back in ancient greece it was said that when people were really ill they went to special temples where the god of sleep would visit them and relieve them of their condition. They used to use suggestion, and prayer, but also music as well.
Fast forward to 1734 and the father of hypnosis, Mesmer hits the scene. What I like about Mesmer was his belief that the moon and planets had a profound affect on how we felt. If we felt ill it was because we were out of alignment. You can see the link here with things like universal energy and being at one with the universe. Alot of the more spiritual elements of self help really stemmed from this period. The next key guy, and i'm missing quite a few people out is Paul Mckenna. Mckenna really was the guy who popularised hypnosis and made street hypnosis mystical and cool. Those hypnotherapists who are client led, believe that although it helped hypnotherapy get exposure it also affected how people viewed hypnotherapy. This is why lots of people view hypnotherapy as strange and weird, and almost as complete nonsense to a certain extent. The thing is the term hypnosis is usually given to street hypnotists who do all the crazy magic stuff and getting people to do crazy things like run around like headless chickens, lol. Hypnotherapy is where we help people and genuinely want to help them overcome their issues whatever they may be.
Can hypnotherapy make me do things i dont want to do?
The truth is it can't. You really can't do anything unless you really accept that it is okay for you to do that action. For example if a hypnotist said he wanted you to dance round the stage with nothing on, and you were a shy person, then guess what you wouldn't do it.
Can hypnotherapy help me with my issue?
To answer this question i'm going to give an example of someone i worked with. This person had various different things going on from severe depression, to anxiety etc. Perhaps the other interesting thing was their De-personalisation disorder. Now the thing is, when i asked this client what they wanted to achieve in the sessions, they had no idea. When i asked the client about their goals for the session, they had no idea. I then decided we would tackle the beliefs about their condition, but the client didn't want to do that as it upset her. By session three i was almost banging my head against a brick wall, as this client was totally unresponsive and wasn't willing to really change their life. Everybody says they want to change and wants to get better, but the truth is a therapist can only guide the way. They can show you the best path to take, but you have to take it. You have to do the work, and really get some momentum behind you to tackle your issue. I know this from experience myself that to overcome issues such as depression, anxiety, phobias etc takes alot of focus, drive and determination. The fact is this client complained that they didn't get any results, they complained that hypnotherapy didn't work, and even blamed me. I label this point, because many people skip over it. If you don't believe that it will work, it wont. If you come to the sessions, and then 5 mins afterwards you fall back into your negative thought process, hypnotherapy wont work. If during the sessions you are resisting every word i'm saying and not surrendering to the process, then it wont work, no matter how skilled the therapist. It can't possibly. It's like having an aircraft taxing down a runway wandering why on earth your not taking off.
So yes, absolutely hypnotherapy can help you. I have had many successful clients that would definitely testify to that, and their lives have changed beyond recognition. In truth it wasn't me that made the change, I only gave those clients the benefit of my experience and knowledge. The truth is it's down to you, and what you expect from it.
How can i make hypnotherapy work for me then?
1) When you see a hypnotherapist check that they are reputable and highly trained individuals. Ideally they should hold a Hypnotherapy Practitioner Diploma, and be members of the National Council of Hypnotherapists. The other good organisation is the General Hypnotherapy Register and their members are also very well monitored to ensure they give the best levels of care and support.
2) The next thing is having a goal for the session. Make sure though that you are willing to do whatever it takes to get over your issue, and that you follow any tasks the hypnotherapist sets you. You should also be able to give honest critical feedback during a session. I am well known for spending a good 10-15mins at the end of a session going through what the client liked and didn't like. Each person should be able to communicate freely without feeling judged, and you as a client should never be forced to do anything you don't want to do.
3) The other thing is don't limit yourself in therapy. Don't always disregard what the therapist is saying. Sometimes when we work with things like depression, fear, anxiety and traumatic events, you need to be able to face those thoughts, and then let them go. The more willing you are to see that these are just thoughts in your mind, then the easier it becomes to stop being scared or intimidated by those thoughts. This takes time by the way, so it's not always an instant process:)
The other bit of advice to make sure you really enjoy your sessions is to not treat hypnotherapy as a magic bullet treatment. There's no quick fixes out there, sadly. Just accept that it's going to take a committment and time to get through your issue, particularly if you have had it for a while. The most important part of all is to enjoy the experience. I think there is nothing greater than the moment when we decide to really tackle and blast through our beliefs and the things holding us back from our goals. Yes, we may stumble, and we may get knocked of track, but that is where your drive and determination comes in. A good therapist will always be on hand whenever you need help and further support subject to their availability. If you need further help, then make contact and get a Skype session or phone conversation going. There's no harm in asking for help, we all need assistance from time to time.
One final point I wanted to tackle was the notion that the stae of trance was a strange and unatural experience. The truth is we all experience trance, unless you are under heavy medication that would cause you to loose impairment and your ability to process your external environment. Have you ever been on a long trip and just somehow arrived at your destination, and it seemed the whole drive just floated by. Well that is a state of trance, it's a very relaxed daydream. I think university lecturers are great hypnotists by the way, lol. They just talk and that's it, off you go into trance, and your mind just drifts away. Those were the days hey?? lol..
I hope you enjoyed this little post here, and if you bear in mind these small points your going to have an awesome time with the therapy programme and a great time with your therapist. I hope to catch some of you soon when ASN launches the therapy programme, it's certainly going to be very exciting, and together we can really make a difference and achieve great things, yeehah!!! Have a great week, and i'll be in touch soon.