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social anxiety disorder

  • Dealing with friends that don't understand anxiety?

    Today my friend told me that my "alleged anxiousness is startling." This was super disappointing and the more I thought about it the more upset I got. He is one of my best friends, but as much as I try to explain to him what anxiety is all he can say is that he just doesn't get it. Should I just accept the fact that he will never understand or be offended that he thinks my anxiety is "alleged" and won't even take the time to understand the significant struggle I have gone through and am going through? I was on anti depressants for 6 years and have been off of them for 1. I still have to take Xanax when a panic attack comes on. The last one he witnessed. I get anxious in public places especially if I feel like I would be disappointing someone if I had to ruin the evening with a panic attack.
  • How the heck do I find a therapist? (or any medical professional that could help in general)

    I'm planning on seeing a therapist for my problems (social anxiety, not diagnosed, so that's a problem). I don't know what to look for and what's right for me, do I need a counselor, do I need a psychologist, psychiatrist? Which one is right for me? What do I look for and note when looking for one (medical professional)? And what if I was never checked and diagnosed? Am I qualified to get help from a psychologist? How do I even start omg I have so many questions I can't even write right now. What do I look for in therapists? What do i need to look for when looking at therapists profile online. Please help. Excuse this messy question. I have many symptoms of social anxiety and desperately need help of some sort. Feel free to add additional information on how you found your therapist if you got one. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Also I wanna add, I'm looking at Psychology Today therapist finder and what do I look at in there that's important? Thank you.
  • How to deal with anxiety without medication

    I have been professionally diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder and Social Anxiety Disorder, and my parents don't really understand it or take it seriously. Because of that, they don't understand the struggle I go through almost every day, the anxiety I feel even when going to school or talking to my friends or doing activities that I enjoy. I was wondering if anyone knows any ways to handle anxiety on this level without medication? My brother has ADD and he is heavily medicated, and my parents have a ton of stress dealing with that. I am supposed to see a psychologist to help with my needs, but I have only seen her once, and that was to be diagnosed. I want to be able to go through life and know what it's like to not have anxiety about every little thing, without medication or hypnosis and stuff like that. Are there any methods you have for dealing with anxiety without medicine?
  • How to help my mom understand?

    Hi, So I've had social anxiety for about 6 years now. It was onset by PTSD from my father and as more things contributed to my PTSD it got worse. When I first realized I had it, I was still able to live a fairly normal life. I went to school, I hung out with my mom and step-dad, I even hung out with friends. As it got worse, I found that the easiest thing for me was being alone. I've always been very independent and loved being alone. I feel like being alone is the only time I can be myself and not worry what others are thinking and not worry when I'm going to have to speak next. I have a lot of irritability around others as well. I have mood swings from bipolar type 2. My therapist has diagnosed me with PTSD, GAD (Generalized Anxiety Disorder), Social Anxiety, Dis-associative Personality Disorder, Eating Disorders, Suicide Ideation, and Bipolar Disorder Type 2. Knowing all this gets overwhelming at times but I feel like I handle it pretty well. Medications don't seem to help, but herbs do (I'm an herbalist which helps). My main issue is my mom. We weren't very close when I was a child. This was primarily do to the fact my father would tell me to say things to her that I assumed to be harmless casual things and was later told were evil, manipulative things that made her believe I hated her. When I was 13, she tried to move myself and her to another state and custody was revoked from her and given to my father. While I was forced to live with my father, I began self-harming, attempting suicide, and became anorexic. About a year later, my fathers violent behaviors only got worse and as a result my mother regained custody and I was able to live with her again. While living with her, we started to get close. She became my best friend and I became hers. I was about 14 at the time. To this day, we're still very close. I'm 19 now. However, she doesn't understand what goes on in my head at all. She has some similar mental health issues but whenever I have a bipolar episode or a suicidal thought or social anxiety and just want to be left alone, she never knows what to do. She thinks that I hate her and my stepdad if I need to be left alone which is often. I can't tell her if I feel suicidal anymore because she freaks out every time and becomes very mean to me because she's scared. Now I'm beginning to feel like I can't really talk to her about anything serious. I admit that I don't get along with my stepdad because we have personalities that clash. He's not very understanding, he too lashes out if anyone is having a serious problem, and we have no common interests. Whenever we talk it seems to end in an argument because he feels like he always has to be right and sometimes in order to get that feeling of being right he tries to make others feel like anything they believe or like is wrong. He also enjoys starting arguments and if someone isn't fighting with him, he'll try to pick a fight with someone else. I know I need to work on building a relationship with him, but of course my mom is my main priority. Any suggestions on how to help her understand? I've tried explaining it to her, she just doesn't seem to understand.
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  • I feel detached, Spaced out, Extremely weird ALL THE TIME, and developing OCD?

    Hello, my name is Andrew. I am only 15 (almost about 16, birthday coming up) and I have been experiencing this... Mental issue, for some time. There are TWO types of problems I want to cover. This first erupted around June 2014. My family got some sort of stomach virus or got food poisoning except me and my mother, this REALLY put some fright into me. This caused a fear of mine to become more than just a normal fear. When my family got sick, I avoided them as much as possible. I secluded myself in my room to stay away from them and to make sure I did not get sick as the fear I was and still am experiencing is vomiting. I can't really explain why I fear or hate it. I just do. The thought of me vomiting was not really a big deal a long time ago, but now it is far more serious. The current thought of me vomiting triggers constant worry about what I eat, what I eat out of, what I drink, What I drink out of or from, what I touch, what breathe in, and or whatever I even put into my body. I cant stop worrying. This also triggers constant paranoia and sometimes anxiety. The anxiety was REALLY BAD at first. I seem to have developed OCD, for germs especially. I don't really care if my room or if the house looks or is a mess. Just things that could get me sick if not clean or clear such as a glass cup, if it is not clean or is spotty from water or soap residue I will clean it my self and probably waste a lot of hot water cleansing a cup that I am going to use for 30 seconds. I will NOT eat anything unless I check the expiration date first. If it is a day over or a day before expiration, I will NOT eat it. Anything that doesn't have a expiration date on it, I will mostly avoid eating or ingesting it. I have lost weight (around 20+ pounds or lbs) because of this. At first I was just never really hungry because I had no appetite and because I could get sick (Only a bit though), but now it's always because I always think that it could or can make me sick. This is only half my problem.

    Another problem I have is some weird feeling I get. I can't really put my finger on it. When I am at home or in public, I feel very detached, spaced out, or just... weird and strange. This is constant. I cant take it. This started a bit after the stomach issue and anxiety issue occurrence. I first wouldn't leave my room or even my bed. I was having full blown depression, on the verge of suicide. I wouldn't eat, I couldn't sleep. Just lay there waiting to die. I am trying my best to get over this, I am doing better than I was when THIS started. The only thing stopping me is... well... some sort of mental block? I don't know, I seem to also worry about hanging out with friends, going outside, or doing any type of activity that requires leaving my house. There is so much I WANT to do. I want to get into a couple activities, but I keep worrying about getting sick or having anxiety attack right there on the spot. One part of me says "Go do it, you want to do it so just do it!", but the other part of me says "What if this? What if that? Maybe this will happen! You shouldn't do it if this or that!", and one very small part of me says "Don't even think about it, go and do it. Why do you think so much just GO! You will be fine". One thing I ask is. Will I be alright? Is this just a weird thing? (Cant really explain it better than "weird thing") I also feel like I am all alone on this now, I think that my family no longer supports me as I see I am getting punished for feeling like this. I get yelled at for feeling like this and or even defending myself on this matter. I don't want to explain this feeling as this is kinda eye watering for me to talk, type, or write about.

    Please help. I don't want to experience this anymore, I cannot take or deal with this anymore, how do I go about solving this or healing this??? What do I do? Help!

    EDIT: I also think Depersonalization and or "Brain Fog" has something to do with this...
  • I feel uncomfortable with everyone / I don't feel comfortable with anyone.

    I don't feel comfortable with anyone at all. Ok so, I'm a teenager and I don't have many friends at ALL. And the ones that I do have, I don't even know if I can call them my friends because I'm uncomfortable around them? Like we talk and text a lot about many things and so we're close right but when I actually get to meet them in person it's like I'm really uncomfortable to the point that when they leave, it's like phew *breath of relief*. Anyway, does anybody else feel that way? And what can I do and change so that I could stop feeling this way? I would just really like to be better and hang out with my friends but it's hard because of that. I never got help yet, so anybody with experience with this please help? Thank you very much.
  • I have generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) and recently I've been thinking I also could possibly have social anxiety on top of that. I'm not 100% sure and my next doctors visit isn't for a couple months. I know that the condition has symptoms similar other

  • I'm stuck

    Lately I've been feeling stuck, like I'm not improving. I'm not getting worse either. But it seems like I've been doing better. But I'm not sure if it's because I am getting better and the working on myself is actually doing something. Or I'm only feeling like I'm doing better because the main trigger for my anxiety and depression is momentarily gone. I just don't know what to do. The working on myself is expressing my emotions and feelings more, and trying to reach out to my friends. I've been figuring out what Happens during an attack and what helps. I know myself pretty well in that area. But I want to be able to do more then just coping with it. I want it to get less. I only have no idea how
  • Isolated but looking to move forward

    OK so I wondered if anyone else has been affected by anxiety to the point that maybe referring to yourself as a shut in seemed to make sense? I have gotten to the point that I rarely go out for anything anymore, especially since my relationship of several years that gave me some strength has ended but my therapist is not very helpful and I am not sure how or actually even what the next step is. How do others move forward?
  • School with anxitey

    For the past two years I've done online school due to my mental illnesses, agrophobia and emetophbia. I'm starting public school again this year, and if high school wasn't hard enough. I'm terrified of seeing, hearing, etc of getting sick so I don't know how I'm going to get through that. I'm anxious of simply seeing the people I left for online school as I've drifted away from them. Overall I don't want to mess up.
  • Should someone with social anxiety (me) go away for college?

    Hello, I just recently graduated high school a couple of days ago. At the end of middle school I had been the most comfortable I ever was compared to my feelings in 6th and 7th grade. Normally what happens is I am extremely fearful of social situations throughout the first years in a new school. My last year in a school I begin to get comfortable and dread the fact that I graduate because it means starting all over again. High school was no different. I will miss everyone single one of the graduates that graduated with me. I have worked very hard to try and end my social anxiety and fear of being judged, and part of me knows it is time to move on. I really should have made this decision about TWO months ago but I have until July 1st. Will going away to college end my social anxiety forever? I will be six hours away from home and will be dorming on campus. I will also have a roommate and money is not an issue in this case since I received a scholarship that pays for everything! Please help I am terrified of the idea of going away for college because I will be facing my social anxiety issue "head on" but maybe it could end my problem forever?
  • Tracking Panic Attacks?

    Does anyone else track their panic attacks? I've found that mine occur nearly on the nose every other Wednesday...I am the only one? I track and log all my smaller anxiety attacks as well (which are usually every few days), but the biggies are usually just every other Wednesday.
  • What are social phobia symptoms?

    My friend don't like to spend a lot of time in places where are a lot of people. She is having a problem with public appearance. I would like to help her to get beyond this. Could she have some type of social phobia?
  • What strategies have helped people to overcome social anxiety?


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We are a community of people struggling with mental health issues, you are not alone!