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How do I control OCD in a relationship?

I've had OCD since I hit puberty, it was a tad more extreme then, now it's mostly germaphobia, and constantly worrying about my own health, with of course the certain routines I have to do every now and then so I don't go crazy haha. I also get random panic attacks here and there, they're pretty damn scary. I've had many relationships with men throughout my life, and I usually tend to end it after a month just because I got bored. I am currently in my longest relationship, which is going to be 1 year this Sunday! The problem is, this relationship isn't the MOST healthy. My boyfriend was raised by his mother and father, but his father had a lot of problems that my boyfriend was exposed to. He lies a lot, not even about important things! Just random things that make no sense to lie about! I always catch him and get mad, blah blah blah. He cheated on me once under the heavy influence of multiple substances, granted it was only kissing, it still hurt like hell. I broke up with him then eventually he got his act together and I gave him another shot. I have ridiculous obsessive thoughts about what happened that night, the girl (who was his bestfriend at the time, and is no longer even an acquaintance of his), and even the little lies he tells me that shouldn't even bother me that much! I'll think I'm over it, then boom, one day there I go asking a MILLION questions.. questions I've asked before and have gotten answers to already. But they pop into my head and I just HAVE to ask them or else I feel like I'm losing control. I strongly believe my OCD is making itself known in my relationship and I just want it to stop. I've helplessly searched for tips on the internet but everything's a stupid scam where they make you pay for this "help" and give you outrageous anxiety report results that make you think you're crazier than 90% of the population.. literally.. that's what my report said. I just want any and all tips and coping mechanisms that have helped you or a friend with anxiety, OCD, or anything along those lines. I want all the help I can get without popping pills and sitting on a therapist's couch.
Category: OCD 6 years ago
Asked 6 years ago

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I can't see OCD here, sorry. I just see that your boyfriend needs help, if he's pathological liar... And you need to get out of that relationship or help him.
Isabelleee13
Answered 6 years ago
Isabelleee13

Maybe it's just your gut instinct this time. Healthy relationships should build each other up in a loving way. I think it may be distrust and not OCD. .?...
Mom43
Answered 6 years ago
Mom43

Having been in a relationship where one person was unfaithful, the wanting to ask questions is perfectly normal. It takes time to regain the trust. As what has already been stated, I do not think these feeling are related to OCD but are symptoms of an anxiety disorder. The lying that you are having to deal with is only feeding this anxiety. Unfortunately some grounds rules must be set in your relationship, in turn that will help with some of the anxiety. One thing that helps me with my anxiety and everyday stress is to get involved in a hobby or rekindle friendships so that I am not constantly sitting around having "what if" moments. Hope this helps.
judgementday
Answered 6 years ago
judgementday

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