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I get very overwhelmed when my significant other makes plans or to-do lists and I often feel like he doesn't notice that it makes me anxious. How do I share this with him, without blaming him for the anxiety it brings? He knows about my anxiety and for the most part we communicate very well but there are times where I feel like he completely disregards what I have said and then as he talks about the "plans" or whatever, I just feel the weight piling on and on. Often in the past, I felt the anxiety because when he used to make plans, he usually back out of them or they never happened, so I learned to anticipate that. But now, I never know what he intends on actually doing I guess. When I make plans, I still have anxiety but less because I feel like I have some control; Until it comes to something he does not complete. Even then, I don't let his lack of effort stress me or make me more anxious. Why is it so much more overwhelming listening to him list off things, then when I am putting things together myself, and what can I do to make it less daunting and terrifying?