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How did you get over your fear of driving by yourself?

I'm in my late 20's and never drove, but my fiance made me get my licence by teaching me how to drive. I can now drive with him in the car. He is so chill, I don't worry about anything when I'm with him. But every time I try to drive by myself, I go into panic mode. How did you guys overcome this fear?
Category: Phobias 5 years ago
sakura
Asked 5 years ago

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My father owned a pickup truck at one time. But we lived in a city suburb, not the country, and on a narrow street. The house is situated near the beginning of the street on a hill. So, as I sat against the curb behind the wheel, the truck faced up hill, where I could see the rest of the cars parked on either side of the street and the thin roadway between them, and then the top of the hill, with no clear vision of the other side. However, little of that went through my mind as I sat there. I was for all intents pinned to my seat. My only thought was whether I would ever pull away from the curb. I do not know how long I sat there. I am sure I looked in my mirrors more than once, and perhaps peaked at the house and wondered if anyone was wondering what I was doing. Why should I care though? I had been on my own before in one way or another. So I did not get out of the truck. I stayed there, like Jacob wrestling with the angel, until I was ready. At some point, I do not know why, I turned the key, and then I safely pulled into the middle and up the street. Once I was moving, it all seemed rather normal. You do what you are expected to do, obey the traffic laws, use your turn signals, and utilize the system all our tax dollars pay for so that we can get where we want to go easier. Eventually, it became second nature. Yes, there are times when I become frustrated at other drivers or anxious while sitting at a traffic stop, but nothing like that first time on my own. I hope others share their unique experiences with you, but for me it was just a matter of giving myself time to acclimate to the idea, without giving too much thought to what others might think about me sitting there. In the driver's seat.
TerrenceMcNulty
Answered 5 years ago
TerrenceMcNulty

I learned to drive in a late age 25 and was very insecure at the beginning, I realized how this can become a new phobia so I decided I will deal with it the only way possible. In my first week as a driver I decided to travel alone to my parents that live in the mountain, it was a 4 hours drive in hard conditions with curves etc... i proved my self i can deal with it. Since than the fear of driving is minimal :) hope it helps!
Salocharly
Answered 5 years ago
Salocharly

You've gotta own the situation. You know you have to drive somewhere and you're in complete control of the vehicle. Think of it as an extension of you. Your very own command center. Also, if you have the chance, start small on your own. The gas station at the corner, the grocery store down the way, simple stuff. Building up a tolerance to the in's and out's of driving. Just like riding a bike or learning any new skill. And reassure yourself the whole way. Use your mind's voice and your physical voice to reassure yourself during your excursion. If there's nothing but good words entering your ears, anxiety starts to starve. It's not feeding off of your fear anymore.
Mhec
Answered 5 years ago
Mhec

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