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Why do people judge/put down people suffering from mental illness?

I ask this because if the rejection I've suffered from the friends and family I used to have. Even my husband turns on me, angrily saying I'm just lazy and spoiled because I left my job 6 months ago. When I try to explain he doesn't want to hear it. He says if I have the energy to "argue" with him, I must not be that depressed. Any time I try to express how I feel he acts like I'm doing something to hurt him. I have to say I'm feeling better for him not to be angry. I feel harshly judged. When I had been severely depressed in years past, my brothers treated me like dirt, smug and righteous. I stopped trying to make friends because if I can't get people who are suppose to love me to stop being angry, smug, self righteous, and cynical, how am I supposed to make acquaintances that would treat me with kindness? It's been so hard since I left my job. My husband belittles me abs if I don't act in a way he likes he refuses to buy things from the store that I like and tells me he is going to throw out the clothes I stopped wearing that are sitting on the laundry room floor. I don't understand it. When I was well I never judged other people. I liken it to how I took care of my mom when she was still alive and too old to help herself. I feel the hallmark of one's character is how you treat people who are helpless. Even if my mom said things I didn't like, I never punished her and held back being decent. Now when I'm in a helpless stare, I am not treated with kindness and understanding. Just made to feel less than I already do about myself. I don't want to be a burden, but I know I am by how I'm treated. My husband never acted this way when I was well and working. Its like he doesn't really believe I'm sick.
Category: Agoraphobia 6 years ago
Asked 6 years ago

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Many people mock and ridicule things they don't understand. For many people who don't suffer from anxiety or depression they feel that it's as easy as turning a switch and poof you're cured! We who suffer from these problems desperately wish there was a magic switch. In regards to your husband you will have to find a way to make him understand that this isn't going to go away just because he wants it to. Your brothers nd sisters to. Having said that there is a flip side to the coin. Many people use anxiety and depression as a crutch to avoid life. (Some use it as a giant bulldozer) I'm not saying or implying you're doing this. The people who do this give up and mentally walk away. They have to understand that it isn't going to go away on its own. Treatment is required and it won't be easy. This will take time and effort on both you and your husband's part. Try to involve him in the process of recovery. You will have to make some sacrifices too. If you're out and watching a movie and suddenly you feel anxious try to stay until the end of the show. Tell your husband afterwards when you started feeling that way but you stayed because he seemed to be enjoying it. There will be times that you have to get out of a situation. Apologize to him and involve him in your treatment. Remember in sickness and in health. I force myself to go to places that terrify me. I go to Disney World and walk around until I can't take it anymore. I will not let my anxiety and Depression define who I am. There will always be people who don't understand how we feel and I don't have to tell you they are truly blessed.
Answered 6 years ago

People that have never had to deal with a mental disorder do not understand what we are going through, they don't understand that this is a real problem, it doesn't make us any different then other people. We just have to be aware of our triggers. I know it makes me so mad when I have a panic attack at work or in public because I just freak out and one of my bosses do not understand. He believes that anxiety disorders are fake.
Answered 6 years ago

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