any one else feels ashamed for having anxiety?
is having anxiety something to be ashamed of, because I feel that way..
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Yeah I feel this way. My dad would tell me when he was alive to never be ashamed of the way God made me because I'm this way for a reason. So when I feel ashamed I try and think of what my dad told me.
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Yes I feel ashamed everyday because no one understands how I feel and they look at me like I'm crazy and I just want to be "normal" so bad. I feel like I'm making my family suffer because I'm different because I have a panic disorder.
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Yes I have felt ashamed for my anxiety. It's something that has been ingrained in my since childhood. My mother hated herself and she had bipolar. My dad hated her emotional neediness. It's also a part of society and culture at large, every good and strong and healthy person is portrayed as shiny, happy, smiling. I feel repulsive and wrong when I am not.
I don't think it should be that way. I think others should feel guilty for not being supportive and accepting of those who struggle (maybe they do, and can't handle it, so blame those who struggle). But I don't think anyone should feel like a bad person for things outside of their control, for shortcomings, or for mistakes they've made.
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I do not feel ashamed about it personally. I look at it like having diabetes. Its not something that you can really control. I know that the current thought is that its a state of mind and we can control it. We can to an extent but a lot of the times we are just along for the ride in my opinion. Just like a low blood sugar attack. You cant think yourself out of one. You do have some control over your actions but it still affects you. When adrenalin is at elevated levels there is only so much that we can do mentally to counter act it.
People that do not suffer with it have no idea what its like or understand it (most people don't and because of this look down on it) I think this is why we tend to feel ashamed about it because we feel that we can and should be able to control it. When we can't there is a great potential to feel depressed or ashamed.
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I dont want to...but I do
Everytime I'm sleeping next to my boyfriend and wake him up with one.
Everytime I'm at work in an important meeting and have one.
the ER knows me by first name ..
I wish this feeling would go away ...
I think this feeling of shame makes it harder to control things when they happen
I'm too wraped up in the shame the guilt the pain that I may make things worst. -
Yes, much of the time. I feel like I'm not being a man by being so anxious all the time. I know that's not the case but I grew up in a family where gender roles were strictly defined and being anything other than tough and stern as a male was just not o.k. So a small part of me feels like a big wuss and that causes me a bit of shame. I also can't be there as much as my mom would like and that leaves my sister picking up a lot of slack so I feel embarrassed and ashamed that I can't do more sometimes as well. I think it's pretty normal for anxiety sufferers to suffer from guilt and shame, unfortunately.
